Navigating Work-Life Balance

Six Things to do When Seeking to Find Balance and the Perfect Harmony to Work and Life

Finding work-life balance is tough. I felt like I wasn’t enough. Or not doing enough. At the same time, I felt like I was doing everything and letting everyone down. I wanted vacation days with friends and dinner with my husband, but instead I was choosing 12 hour workdays that left me feeling unworthy. I wanted to say “no” without feeling guilty, and “yes” without feeling overwhelmed.

I was at this place in my business as I sat at Baker’s Crust and talked with my friend. On the verge of tears, I was holding back gossip and snarky comments, annoyed with myself, and with everything around me. Realizing it was October, I remembered that the previous year I’d told my husband that I no longer wanted to be a wedding photographer. But then I entered the off season, recovered, re-energized. And I told myself that next year when those feelings roll around in October, it’s not that I want to quit my job, it’s that I’m just burnt-out. As I sat there and finished my fig and brie sandwich, I decided NO MORE. A change was needed.

We started our own businesses because we found in ourselves a passion to create and a desire to let our creativity work for us. But if we’re being honest, at one point or another, this work can begin to rule us. Work life balance isn’t just about our time. It’s about our mood, our stress levels, our relationships, and our confidence. We wrap ourselves in our work and work starts to look a lot like who we are instead of what we do. When we are the face of our business and brand, it’s hard not to make your job your identity. The ups and downs of our work start to shake our foundation. Although we’ll never be able to control what falls into our path, we must adjust course if we want to make it through!

Finding Balance and the Perfect Harmony to Work and Life

I find that when I’m struggling with work-life balance, I’ve lost sight of who or what defines me. Who knew that this struggle was nothing short of an identity crisis?! In my life, this plays out in three major stages:

Stage 1. Not being sure of, or failing to remember WHO or WHAT defines you.

  • Not being able to nail down a vision statement and goals for your business
  • Having a lack of values and priorities
  • Ignoring the brainstorming or planning processes of starting a new project or business
  • Not defining what success is to you – practically, financially, and emotionally.
  • Being afraid to say, “No.”

Then you’ll start…

Stage 2. Allowing others to define who you are.

  • Comparing yourself to others
  • Allow other’s successes to become your failures, when in fact they are completely unrelated
  • Giving people’s opinions too much weight, or saying, “If only I were better…”

Then you’ll start…

Stage 3. Allowing your work to define you.

  • Becoming a workaholic OR paralyzed in your work, unable to make any decisions
  • Feeling like there aren’t enough hours in the day
  • Relationships are sidelined, treated as unimportant, and go under nurtured
  • Absence of community
  • Absence of rest/feelings of burnout
  • Priorities are reordered

Finding Balance and the Perfect Harmony to Work and Life

Have you been there? Are you there now? This thing we call “work-life balance” is a lifelong process rather than a one time achievement. It will look different as our personal life and businesses change. However, when you know who you are, what your purpose is, and remember it doesn’t revolve around your work, the crises are few and far between. These tips below are ways I’ve worked to create a healthy work-life balance. They can transcend businesses and seasons in our life, which–to me–makes them noteworthy.

  1. Write down a list of your top 3-4 priorities. Like, in life.
    Mine would be: God, Family + Close Friends, My Business.
  2. Take time [days] to refine your vision for your business. It will be the inspiration and framework for your strategic planning, and what you base your goals on! Having something down on paper will be helpful to come back to when you’re feeling overwhelmed.
  3. Make time for active rest and reflection. Getting away for some quiet personal time and re-evaluation is healthy for both your personal and work life.
  4. Remember that you will have to say “No.” And realize that this is a good thing while at the same time it could be a bad business decision. [For a practical example, taking a social media hiatus is BAD for business, but could be the best thing for you on many levels.]
  5. Read, Ordering Your Private World. It changed my life. It is a faith based book, but can inspire ANYone with foundational encouragement and challenges.
  6. Ask a close friend to hold you accountable. We’re built for community, y’all. Allow other people in to challenge and encourage you!

Photo credits: Andrea Pesce


Ali Williamson

All my life, I’ve wanted to move somewhere coastal and south. A huge part of my heart beats for the sand and the sea and for the culture of the coast. But I am a Virginia girl at heart. After all, I was born and raised on the Potomac and educated in The Valley. I fell in love in Virginia with a boy from Virginia. We got married in Virginia, and now we live in the heart of Virginia where I photograph weddings all over the state. I love a classy vineyard wedding in Charlottesville as much as a relaxed ocean side wedding in Virginia Beach. I’ve been shooting weddings since 2006 when I started in the industry as a second shooter. When I began my business in 2010, I had 4 years of experience and a year of photography school under my belt. Since then, I’ve had the privilege of meeting amazing couples and documenting their love. I view my job as an honor and a gift, just as I view marriage itself!


  1. I. LOVE. THIS. Such a good reminder and so eloquently written!!!

  2. i needed this post this week!! Thank you for sharing your heart with us!

  3. Thank you so much!! This is everything I needed to read today. I will be taking your tips to get refocused and back to feeling good! Thank you!

  4. Love this post! I’ve never considered the “stages of overwhelm” but Ali was spot on. Such amazing advice!

  5. I needed to read this this morning. Been here so many times and will be applying your suggestions. Thank you 🙂

  6. Just read this and loved every bit of it. I’ve often felt overwhelmed in trying to “manage” everything. Just what I needed to read and something I can easily apply and do straight away to get back on the right track of balancing work and life.